How are you connecting with your network?

Reaching out from computerHow are you reaching out to connect? If you are a job seeker, Can you get me a job? Simply doesn’t work! If you are a business owner, Will you buy my stuff? Doesn’t work either. You need to build a relationship with someone after that initial invitation.

Start out slow when building a relationship on LinkedIn. Find something you have in common, maybe you went to the same university or they worked at the same company that your brother did. Compliment them on their skills and expertise.

I’m sure you know how it feels when someone (who has just connected with you) sends you a message that is 3 long paragraphs about how you don’t want to miss this opportunity to work them and just in case you don’t believe them, feel free to visit their website, like their Facebook page and follow them on Twitter. You would think they have that message ready to copy and paste as soon as you accept the invite.

If you are in the helping profession as a coach or consultant, you may get the 3 paragraph long message asking you to help fix their lives with full instructions how you can fix it. I believe most people want to help others if asked in the right way and the right time.

People want to do business with those they know, like and trust. We know it is much harder to build relationships online than face to face. So how do people trust you on LinkedIn when they don’t know you? I offer tell potential clients to read my LinkedIn recommendations. Recommendations on LinkedIn are much more valuable than the recommendation letter you get from your previous boss. No one feels compelled to write a recommendation for you unless they truly want to! You can send a request but they don’t have to return it. So if someone has given you a recommendation, they probably think you have done a good job, are a great employee or would make a great employer, so on and so on 🙂

Need that recent position to put on your profile? Try volunteering!

Waiting for phone to ringI have talked to many job seekers about how to address this question. It’s tough enough to be out of work for any length of time but then you have to justify what you have been doing. As if looking for employment isn’t enough! When in fact, it’s far harder to find a job then work at a job!

So what can you list as your current position if it has been some time since you were employed. If you have a skill related to your job experience, try doing some part-time work or consulting. If that doesn’t apply, volunteer! With one in 5 hiring managers saying they hire based partly on volunteer experience, why not give it a try!

There are so many charities that would love some of your valuable time. It will get your mind off the fact that you are out of work but more importantly it will get you out the door! You can feel better about yourself by helping others; it’s a proven fact!

Just for a while, you can take your mind off the endless searching, the resume editing, and the countless cover letters. In addition to the computer you are chained to for hours on end.

LinkedIn is forgiving in what you can add to your profile and whether you are getting pay for that position or not. You can also make your volunteer work a project. Yes, you may have to explain your situation to recruiters or during the interview phrase. But you have to admit, it sounds better to say- “I have been volunteering at ….. Instead of, “I have spent countless looking for this position; which you indeed have!

Just food for thought 😉

Happiness and Success Always

What to do when the bottom falls out?

LayoffThe sudden and unexpected layoff! Here today, gone tomorrow. Ouch! First, the shock sets in and What Now? What do I do first? Cry? or Call my friends and then cry some more?

Then comes the anger. I have devoted a large part of my life to this company. They could have at least given me more notice, a larger severance package, and the four weeks of paid vacation I never used!

I believe in allowing yourself a small and intimate pity party or a day in bed with the covers pulled over your head. But unfortunately, that wouldn’t pay the rent. So you push forward, a day at a time, sometimes an hour at a time. You give yourself breaks. Yes, you may have to cancel that gym membership; but you can take a walk.

Yes, there will be days that you will want to throw in the towel and feel completely defeated. That’s when you call a friend who you know will give you that much needed “kick in the butt” to propel you forward.

Once reality sets in, you realize that your resume is outdated. You have fallen behind on keeping in touch with your social media friends, followers and connections.

Remember that saying when things get tough, the tough go shopping! Not a terribly good idea unless it’s the Dollar Store.

But you need to get tough in order to move forward. Stay busy. Ask for help with your resume. Get your profile on social media sites ramped up, LinkedIn is where it’s happening! Let people know you are looking. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, it is not a sign of weakness and research has shown that other people really do want to help others, it’s rewarding to them. Wouldn’t you help them if the situation was reversed?

So, try your best to stay positive and put a smile on your face 🙂

I would love to hear your thoughts/experiences and how you stay motivated?